I’m the dad of 3 girls and am afraid of the world of sexual harassment and abuse my daughters are going to have to navigate.
I’m also the author of Beyond the Battle: a man’s guide to his identity in Christ in an oversexualized world, a book that, among other things, helps men rewire their minds so we don’t become sexual harassers or abusers.
Needless to say, I think (and write) about this subject a lot. I also live in Lansing, MI, where every day there are new headlines in the paper about Michigan State University and USA Gymnastics’ Dr. Larry Nassar’s sexual abuse of hundreds of girls and women athletes over a span of decades. Those could have been my daughters had things been off by a few years.
I put the phrase “an oversexualized world” into the subtitle of my book very intentionally. No one can argue that our world isn’t oversexualized. My question is, why aren’t more people doing something about it? I’m convinced that as a society as a whole, we want the best of both worlds. We want to have our cake and eat it too. We want to do whatever we want sexually: have sex before marriage, have casual sex, have porn in our popular movies and Netflix shows, look at the Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition, and have a general culture that “if you want to have sex, then have it.” To argue against this puts you in what feels like a small, unpopular minority. But when this mindset toward sex produces its inevitable result: broken hearts and broken spirits, let alone sexual harassment, rape, and sexual abuse, we are all dumbfounded as to where these things came from. Continue Reading…