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There is a trend in our culture where if you are attracted to the same sex, attracted to both sexes, or identify as a different gender than your birth gender, the cultural tide tells you to go with how you feel, be yourself, and live into these feelings and attractions.

It can feel like there are only two paths: the cultural path of living by your feelings / orientation or the biblical path of living according to what the Bible says.  This dichotomy that’s been set up by the Church and by culture doesn’t give the whole picture though; it’s like we’re playing a game of chess with only a quarter of the board.

A primary breakdown in this dichotomy is that “the biblical path” is often seen by both culture and the Church as meaning “the straight path,” as in, if you’re straight, you’ve met the Bible’s standard.  Heterosexual sin within the Church is no big deal, while homosexual sin gets all of the attention.  This dichotomy also assumes that the solution for someone who is gay is for them to become straight, something that is usually not possible.

Is heterosexual sin spoken against in the Bible?  Yes.  Clearly and directly and repeatedly.  From lust, to adultery, to divorce, heterosexual sin is called out as direct rebellion against a holy God.

Why is Jesus so harsh against lust and divorce? (Matthew 5:27-32)  It’s because God created sex to be between a man and a woman in the context of marriage alone.  Does that line feel familiar to you?  It might remind you of debates that go on between culture and the Church (or between the Church and the Church) about homosexuality.  And it begins to reveal a few more of the missing squares on the chess board…

Those who are gay, lesbian and transgender get all of the spotlight when it comes to conforming to the Bible’s design for sex—not that they are asking for it, but as a heterosexual with tons of sexual disorientation issues, I have to say I’m a little jealous. Continue Reading…

Simply saying that being transgender or transitioning genders is wrong is a 2 cent answer to a million (billion) dollar question.

Like many issues, a person who has no personal experience with the struggle should not go around making cavalier, black and white statements about those who do.  This doesn’t mean the Bible doesn’t apply, but it’s hypocritical and judgmental to conclude that your experience with a specific struggle is the same as someone else’s and thus, their response to it should come as simply and easily as yours does.

It is incorrect and unhelpful to assume that a transgender person has chosen to feel the way they do about their gender identity or that they can simply choose to identify in line with their biological body parts.

I was recently talking to a Christian parent whose child transitioned genders.  Their child was developing bad body odor and they couldn’t understand why they wouldn’t take showers.  Their child explained to them that they were so disturbed with seeing their own genitalia, feeling so much that it didn’t belong there, that they would rather smell bad than have to see this and be reminded of it.

If you are a man, imagine you step in the shower tomorrow morning and see you have breasts and a vagina.

If you are a woman, imagine stepping in the shower tomorrow morning and seeing you have a penis.

(And then being mocked, bullied and shamed for it)

That’s a small taste of how it feels to be transgender.  Continue Reading…

Trending on Facebook this week is the #GiveElsaAGirlfriend hashtag, a campaign lobbying to give Disney’s Frozen star a female love interest in the upcoming sequel.  Idina Menzel, the actress who plays Elsa’s voice, made headlines when asked in an Entertainment Weekly interview about the campaign,

“I think it’s great,” she told ET on Sunday of the online campaign. “Disney’s just gotta contend with that. I’ll let them figure that out.”

While the quote was taken a little out of context (click to view the actual video below, you’ll be directed to Entertainment Tonight’s website), it was an answer expected of any Hollywood star with a live camera shoved in front of their face, and it certainly gave #GiveElsaAGirlfriend all the fuel needed to push their campaign more and more into the public spotlight.

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I have 2-year-old and 4-year-old daughters, both who love the Frozen movie (and yes, I have every word of every song memorized).  Almost every young girl in America loves the Frozen movie, and almost every girl’s favorite character is Elsa.

Here’s what I find so interesting about Elsa and the new #GiveElsaAGirlfriend campaign.  Elsa is single; she has no love interest in Frozen, yet she is still beloved by little girls everywhere.  A lack of a love interest didn’t slow Elsa down, nor did it slow down Frozen‘s huge box office rake.  The campaign to give Elsa a love interest at all speaks so loudly most don’t hear it because we’re already deaf.

What is so wrong with being single?

Or celibate? 

If someone isn’t interested in the opposite sex, why must it be campaigned by their friends and their society that they must find a same sex love interest in order to be whole and happy? Continue Reading…

Yesterday I posted Bible verses that show Victoria and Joel Osteen to be false teachers, along with a video that’s been circulating Facebook of a recent church service of theirs:

I honestly wish the Bill Cosby blurb wasn’t added at the end, as my intention is not to mock the Osteen’s or to bash on them personally.  This clip was the only one available as the original clip (that didn’t have Cosby) had been removed from Facebook.

There is a fine line between bashing a famous Christian person and doing needed honest critiquing of damaging and dangerous doctrine.  Continue Reading…

I am a pastor.

For better or for worse, our culture has decided that pastors officiate weddings.  Not librarians, not mailmen, not mayors, not IRS-agents.

This is cool with me inasmuch as the Bible does talk about marriage as something God created with a certain purpose behind it.  So when people want to follow the Bible, it makes sense that I would officiate their wedding, and it’s a great celebration of following God’s design for sex and romance and love and the definition He gave it therein.  It’s an act of worship.

But our country is built on the principle of the separation of Church and State.  The authority I have as a pastor is definitely on the Church side of things, not the State side.  I can’t arrest you.  I can’t collect taxes from you.  I can’t make laws.  I can’t sentence you to prison. Continue Reading…