Going through adolescence as a boy has never been easy, but in today’s day and age it’s more hazardous than ever. And for parents, the nightmare is real. No parent wants their son to be a future perpetrator on a #MeToo headline. No parent wants their son to abuse women, or to objectify women, or to be in and out of relationships and marriages their whole life.
93.2% of boys and 62.1% of girls have seen online pornography before age 18.
(http://www.familysafemedia.com/pornography_statistics.html). You can read Covenant Eyes’s full statistics pack about porn here. Here’s what I know anecdotally:
- The male sex drive is very strong.
- Kids are being given smartphones and tablets like they are candy. With full access to any porn they want, or that they accidentally stumble on.
- When I was in middle school and high school, it was normal for guys to talk about porn in open conversations, even with girls around.
- People started having in sex in 7th and 8th grade. It became commonplace by high school.
- I estimate that many of the attractive, popular guys from my high school have probably had sex with 50+ women by the time they turn 30 (and that’s probably low for some), when they finally marry and “settle down”. These aren’t “creepy” guys. These are the guys women see as attractive, fun, desirable, and successful.
- Movies and shows jam-packed with sex and nudity like Game of Thrones are the most popular entertainment options in our culture. Expect this trend to continue to the point where there is no more envelope left to be pushed and no more line between what culture calls “porn” and public entertainment.
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