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Christians are to save sex until marriage and are to keep it there. (Genesis 2:24; 1 Corinthians 6:12-20)
And fantasizing about sex outside of marriage is the same heart condition as engaging in it. (Matthew 5:27-28)
These sound like some pretty strict “thou shalt not’s!” It’s very important that we understand why God gave us these commands, as it wasn’t just to ruin our fun. In a nutshell, sex is potent and volatile. Our world has duped us into believing it’s only about body parts and impulses, but we all know it involves much more intimacy and vulnerability than that. Deception is played, hearts are broken and selfishness runs rampant. Instead of looking at another person as a human being, we’ve been conditioned to see them as objects to be used for our consumption and then discarded.
This is a problem. Continue Reading…
The New York Post had a nude photo of Donald Trump’s wife Melania on its cover this week, with the title “Ogle Office.” The photo was taken around 20 years ago, when Melania was 25 years old, in the thick of her modeling career and before she met Donald. It was from a now defunct French men’s magazine, according to CNN.com.
Ironically timed, there’s an article in today’s USA Today with Donald and son Eric’s thoughts on how (Donald’s daughter / Eric’s sister) 34-year-old Ivanka Trump would handle being sexually harassed. Ivanka is a business woman and former model. This was a response to a previous USA Today article where Donald says he thinks Ivanka should find a new job if she was being harassed in her workplace. The articles, written by Mary Bowerman and Kirsten Powers respectively, both denounce Donald for insinuating it’s a woman’s fault if she’s sexually harassed. Powers’ article sums up the feeling well in her last sentence:
All together now: Women don’t cause sexual harassment, harassers do.
Before I get in to my thoughts, let me say that I agree with Powers’ sentiment here. As a pastor, I would re-frame it to say that a person (in this case the harasser) is responsible and accountable for their own sin. No excuses. Period. Continue Reading…
Not everybody’s doing it.
In fact, out of 504 Christian singles surveyed, 3 out of 4 aren’t doing it.
In a culture that worships sex like it’s the Holy Grail, the Fountain of Youth and everlasting LSD all wrapped into one, it’s good for a Christian single person to know they aren’t going against the flow as much as media would like to make them feel when they set out to follow the Bible’s design for sex, reserving it for marriage.
Rather than being in the minority amongst Christian singles, those surveyed who have committed to saving sex for marriage are in the vast majority, with 77% (387 out of 504) saying so.
Of the remaining 23%, 19% of Christian singles say they believe that sex before marriage is a sin but are currently sexually active and/or don’t plan on waiting until marriage to have sex. The remaining 4% do not believe it’s a sin.
These are reassuring stats for those who love the Church and love the Bible. In today’s culture, it can often feel like everyone is throwing away what the Bible says in preference for whatever feels good or is seen as cool, popular or progressive. We expect the world to act this way, but the real discouragement comes when it seems the foundation of the Church is following this trend, rather than staying true to God’s Word and will.
While the 23% of Christian singles who are having sex outside of marriage shows we still have work to do within the Church, the 77% who are holding strong to Scripture in one of the most difficult areas of life show that the biblical fire empowering the core of the Church of Jesus is still burning brightly, contrary to what it may feel like from the media headlines.
It’s good to see yet another example that the death of the Church has been greatly exaggerated. Stay faithful to Jesus, Christian singles, your testimony is a shining light to many.
Read Post #1, “Demographics and Controls for Christian Singles Survey”