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Men, here are 4 reasons you should NOT read Beyond the Battle: A Man’s Guide to His Identity in Christ in an Oversexualized World by Noah Filipiak:

1. You don’t struggle with lust at all.  You never check out attractive women when they walk by.  You don’t have any desire to look at internet porn or nudity in TV shows and movies.
2. You do lust, look at porn, watch Game of Thrones, etc. but you don’t think it’s a sin and you don’t have a problem with it.
3A. You are completely content in your marriage. Your wife is the definition of perfection in every way.  You never wish she would change anything or act differently.
3B. You are completely content in your singleness.  You never struggle with God about why you aren’t married.
4. Because Noah Filipiak is not a celebrity, and you know that only celebrities have good or helpful things to say.

If any of these apply to you, make sure you do NOT click on the following link: Beyond the Battle: A Man’s Guide to His Identity in Christ in an Oversexualized World by Noah Filipiak


If you’re in a dry season of your marriage, you’ve more than likely thought about any number of the following:

married the wrong person Continue Reading…

Please use the following link to read my recent article for Covenant Eyes’ blog, How to Love Your Spouse When They Don’t Love You Back.  Please share that Covenant Eyes link in your social networks, not the current atacrossroads one you are currently on.

This Covenant Eyes article shares some similar content with my upcoming book on how to navigate an oversexualized culture beyond tactics and tricks.  If you like this article, please consider what you can do on my Publishing Team to get this message out even further.  Thank you!

Noah Filipiak

(This is an excerpt from the book I’m working on called “Worth the Fight,” a book for men about sexual purity and our identity in Christ.  This excerpt can easily be applied to both men and women.  Also, it is not referencing any individual offense within my marriage, but is referring to my tendency as a spouse to harbor bitterness and resentment over the course of ten years of marriage–something that makes more sense in the context of the rest of my book.  For the sake of this post, just know I’m not throwing Jen under the bus, this isn’t referring to any offense in specific, and what I refer to is something I feel most all husbands and wives experience.) 

I have read Matthew 18 countless times. I have explained the parable of the unmerciful servant countless times (Matthew 18:21-35). A story Jesus tells where a servant owed his king 200,000 years worth of wages—this was a cartoonish debt the servant obviously would never be able to repay. The law dictated that the man and his entire family would be sold as slaves in order to pay the financial debt owed to the king. The servant begs and pleads for the king to forgive him of his astronomical debt, which the king somehow mercifully does. The man is free to go.

On his way, he runs into a fellow servant who owed him around 100 days worth of wages. While not a negligible amount, it was certainly nowhere near the incalculable amount he himself had just been relieved of. To be precise, the debt owed him was .0005% of what he had just been forgiven of. Shockingly, the just-forgiven servant starts violently choking his fellow servant and demands that he repay all that he owes. When the one being choked asks for patience and reassures that he’ll pay back his debt with more time, the wicked servant refuses and has the man thrown into prison until he can pay back everything.

While listening to Matthew 18 on my audio Bible recently, the conclusion of the parable, which is the king reprimanding the wicked servant, hit me with sobering rawness: Continue Reading…

One of the toughest things in a marriage is when one spouse wants to work on the relationship but the other doesn’t think there is a problem, or worse, doesn’t care.

(Also recommended from Noah Filipiak: How to Love Your Spouse When They Don’t Love You Back)

The spouse who wants to work on the relationship can only push so far before they get tuned out altogether or they make their spouse angry.

I knew a couple where the wife was trying to communicate to the husband that there were problems in their marriage and she wanted to go to counseling together.  He was too busy to make her requests a priority and assumed it wasn’t a big deal.  Eventually she couldn’t take it anymore and Continue Reading…